Chronic 'What If' Syndrome

Chronic ‘What If’ Syndrome.

The human mind is like a guard dog and protects you from anything and everything it perceives as a threat. It creates warnings, doubts, alarm bells etc. This is why we are inclined to be more negative than positive.

What if something goes wrong?
What if I lose my money?
What if this idea is no good?
What if I don’t buy the right thing?
What if I use the wrong strategy?
What if they don’t like me?
What if I make a fool of myself?
and on and on it goes!

These are all common healthy questions. However, you do need to deal with them if you want to get ahead in life. If you do suffer from chronic “What If” Syndrome than you may need to deal with the root of that issue first.

A common cause is an over protective parent. Maybe your mother was always saying things like, look out, that won’t work, that person looks dodgy, be careful etc.

Or maybe your parents were divorced and you have somehow transferred the trauma of that experience into your own life.

A lady we know had transferred the fear she had for business failure from her father who had committed suicide when she was 11 because he had failed in his business. Once she could see the direct affect of his behaviour on her present life she began to see that it need not be this way for her and her business ventures have since grown very quickly.

Maybe your re-action was not from your past, but from a recent bad experience where you did lose money. So now you are over cautious and use lots of “What If” questions to keep you from doing another bad deal.

Of course the good news is that for a mind to come up with lots of “What If” ideas to keep you from doing well, your mind has to be creative. This means that a creative mind when used in a more positive way can also come up with ‘what if’ ideas that allow you to do well.

If you already know where your predominant “What If” behaviour comes from but you don’t know what to do about it. Here are two ideas.

1 - Every time you know you have just come up with a ‘What If’, that is negative and likely to hold you back from business, immediately replace that thought with a positive “What If” for the very same situation that would make it a good business decision.
What if it goes really well?
What if I make a lot of money?
What if this thing is fantastic and just what I needed right now?
What if I bought the perfect item?
What if I used the right strategy?
What if they do like me, where could that lead?
What if I make an excellent?

Changing your “what if” questions around will take a while but if you constantly work at it your mind will learn to relax and allow you more freedom.

The good news is the sub-conscience mind is a very powerful control device. No matter how deep your embedded thoughts from your past are controlling your present behaviours, you can change them! You will then do very well not only in work but also in other areas of your life.

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Regrets

Regrets are emotions that are more difficult to handle, because they can last a long time. Often impulsive decisions have led us to do something we will later regret.

- We said something hurtful out of anger.
- We lashed out from frustration.
- We took an opportunity we shouldn’t have out of desperation.
- We bought something we couldn’t afford to feed our ego.

Regret is harmful as it can stay around for years and can in itself become a thought pattern that will cause us to spiral down when times are tough.

However, usually during the decision making process of regrettable behaviour the mind gives many warning thoughts.

- Be careful.
- What will others say?
- Can you really afford this?
- Are you sure about this?
- Keep control of your temper.
- Don’t you need to sleep on it a bit?
- This may not be a smart thing to do.
- This may feed your addiction, don’t take it.
- Haven’t you have made this mistake before.
- How would this look on the front page of the newspaper?
and on it goes.

The mind is doing its job of protecting us from regretting our actions later.

So if up till now you have led a life full of regrets than perhaps you can improve the quality of your life by becoming more responsive to those intuitive warning messages. You know the ones I mean.

Your intuition is your best friend to lead a fulfilled life. It is your best focus – fetch – fact mechanism, and will guide your thoughts in the direction you want to go.

But you must learn to listen to it and not ignore it when it is giving you the warning thoughts you need just before you lose control and choose to do something you may regret for the rest of your life.

Most impulsive people already know the very point of their decision making process at which they need to stop and listen to their intuition. It is a matter of practice makes perfect. Don’t give up and don’t be too hard on yourself; there are many more years to enjoy.

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