There is a common misconception that in order to teach others you need to spend time with them or prepare learning materials. But have you ever given any thought as to how much you can teach others around you just by doing what YOU love and being the best that YOU can be?
Influence is a very powerful force. People love to follow somebody who is doing something they love or is an inspiration in someway. Do not underestimate what you can do to help others by just living your OWN life to full capacity and being happy in yourself.
Influence can also be a great teacher if people have overcome some sort of personal problem. The most common of those of course involve addictions such as smoking, drinking, overeating, drugs, gambling, overspending etc. The movie industry knows this only too well and has capitalised on these success stories for years.
The “If they can do it, so can I” attitude has helped so many people. If you want to be a hero, pick your worst problem and learn to overcome it. You will not only help yourself but you will be amazed as to how your success can help others you love to achieve similar goals in their life.
Of course influence is automatic for any parent. If you are around children you will be influencing them everyday in someway. They will be watching what you do, how you do it and when you do it. Unfortunately influence can be for good or bad behaviour. Children will either copy their parent’s or rebel against the behaviour and do the opposite. Either way the parent will have a direct influence on the child. What are you teaching your children?
Some of the issues may just be small. Maybe your problems involve subtle things like procrastination, self doubt, anger management, poor reading skills, laziness, hygiene, poor fitness, lack of confidence, fear of public speaking etc
The beauty about influence is that if you do have something in your life you are battling with and you decide to finally take control and follow steps to overcome this “thing”, you will be influencing many more people around you with similar issues.
You may not even know the affect your success or failure has on other people, but believe me whatever you do or don’t do in this world, it is having a powerful influence on somebody around you.
If you do try to overcome a personal issue and you fail the first time, don’t let that stop you trying again. Struggling with failure is all part of the process and also part of the learning curve of influence. Those who fail and try again will ultimately enjoy success and influence others to greatness.
Find out more at www.fetchmyfuture.com
Monday, March 23, 2009
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Assumptions
Assumptions are very powerful thoughts and can have a big influence on your life.
The movie industry knows this very well and uses assumptions frequently to spice up stories. In juicy love stories they will often introduce a gorgeous woman into the plot which threatens the main character’s relationship with his current partner. They will let the audience assume that the hero is having an affair or being disloyal in some way. Then at the last minute it is revealed that the ‘new’ woman is the hero’s sister. In the meantime the chaos the assumptions have created makes good money at the box office.
A while ago we met a man who was convinced that his mother didn’t love him. He had spent most of his life with this assumption, and now had a difficult relationship with her. When we probed into his past he said these thoughts has started after he fell off his bike aged nine.
He had some serious injuries from his fall and was hospitalised. The school rang his mother who had to leave her work to come to see him. Then she left him there and with his child’s mind he had taken on the assumption that she left because she was cross about having to leave work and she didn’t love him anymore.
For years he had harboured these emotions. So we encouraged him to ask his mother what her version of the incident was.
When he asked her ‘Why did you leave me in the hospital all alone when I was nine?”
She said “The visiting hours, were over.”
What assumptions are ruining your life? What assumptions are affecting your relationships with loved ones?
Do you have things going through your head that are running your patterns of behaviour?
Are you really sure that others share the same thoughts that are holding you back from leading a full life?
I know it is hard to face some situations, but believe me it is worth it. Ask the person you have issues with what their version is and you may find out that your assumptions may have another side to them. Once you have discussed them with others and have a better understanding of their version, the assumptions soon disappear.
Most people strive for peace and happiness and will be glad that you “cleaned up” the mess your assumptions have created.
The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.-G.K. Chesterton
Most people are trying to find their own way in this world. Things don’t always go smoothly and they can get a little lost in what they are doing. Be patient with others and just love them for what they are. They are really doing their best with what they have.
Find out more at www.fetchmyfuture.com
The movie industry knows this very well and uses assumptions frequently to spice up stories. In juicy love stories they will often introduce a gorgeous woman into the plot which threatens the main character’s relationship with his current partner. They will let the audience assume that the hero is having an affair or being disloyal in some way. Then at the last minute it is revealed that the ‘new’ woman is the hero’s sister. In the meantime the chaos the assumptions have created makes good money at the box office.
A while ago we met a man who was convinced that his mother didn’t love him. He had spent most of his life with this assumption, and now had a difficult relationship with her. When we probed into his past he said these thoughts has started after he fell off his bike aged nine.
He had some serious injuries from his fall and was hospitalised. The school rang his mother who had to leave her work to come to see him. Then she left him there and with his child’s mind he had taken on the assumption that she left because she was cross about having to leave work and she didn’t love him anymore.
For years he had harboured these emotions. So we encouraged him to ask his mother what her version of the incident was.
When he asked her ‘Why did you leave me in the hospital all alone when I was nine?”
She said “The visiting hours, were over.”
What assumptions are ruining your life? What assumptions are affecting your relationships with loved ones?
Do you have things going through your head that are running your patterns of behaviour?
Are you really sure that others share the same thoughts that are holding you back from leading a full life?
I know it is hard to face some situations, but believe me it is worth it. Ask the person you have issues with what their version is and you may find out that your assumptions may have another side to them. Once you have discussed them with others and have a better understanding of their version, the assumptions soon disappear.
Most people strive for peace and happiness and will be glad that you “cleaned up” the mess your assumptions have created.
The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.-G.K. Chesterton
Most people are trying to find their own way in this world. Things don’t always go smoothly and they can get a little lost in what they are doing. Be patient with others and just love them for what they are. They are really doing their best with what they have.
Find out more at www.fetchmyfuture.com
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Carrots
Your mind needs carrots. Have you ever had the experience of looking forward to going on a long planned holiday. In the week before you depart, no matter how things go wrong ( the boss can yell at you, the kids can smash windows, your wallet may be stolen etc.) but you cope with it all beautifully because somehow the carrot of that holiday next week keeps you calm and in good spirits.
Then at the end of the holiday, even if you are on a gorgeous hot white sandy beach sipping margueritas, the idea that you have to go home soon can really get you down.
This is all quite normal, the mind will react according to your thoughts, not the environment you are actually in. So use this to your advantage and make sure that in tough times you give your mind daily carrots. Even if they are just simple little things, try to have a personal carrot for each day of the week.
Monday – eat out for lunch.
Tuesday – phone call with an old friend.
Wednesday – nice long hot bath with candles.
Thursday – buy a little something for YOURSELF while out grocery shopping
Friday – a night on the couch with take-aways.
Saturday – outing with friends.
Sunday – sleep in.
Make sure that you actually DO these things so that your mind trusts you and will keep you in good spirits. Don’t feel that you are being selfish or greedy or extravagant. This is a useful and powerful system. If you learn to pamper yourself a little, you will be far more calm and productive. Your family and colleagues will thank you.
Of course, as well as the little carrots you must have some really big ones all the time, (overseas holiday, new car) but that will take a little more planning and maybe more funds too. When you understand the power of carrots and allow them to be a constant part of your life (without guilt), you will find that they are very effective for fetching your great future.
Find out more at www.fetchmyfuture.com
Then at the end of the holiday, even if you are on a gorgeous hot white sandy beach sipping margueritas, the idea that you have to go home soon can really get you down.
This is all quite normal, the mind will react according to your thoughts, not the environment you are actually in. So use this to your advantage and make sure that in tough times you give your mind daily carrots. Even if they are just simple little things, try to have a personal carrot for each day of the week.
Monday – eat out for lunch.
Tuesday – phone call with an old friend.
Wednesday – nice long hot bath with candles.
Thursday – buy a little something for YOURSELF while out grocery shopping
Friday – a night on the couch with take-aways.
Saturday – outing with friends.
Sunday – sleep in.
Make sure that you actually DO these things so that your mind trusts you and will keep you in good spirits. Don’t feel that you are being selfish or greedy or extravagant. This is a useful and powerful system. If you learn to pamper yourself a little, you will be far more calm and productive. Your family and colleagues will thank you.
Of course, as well as the little carrots you must have some really big ones all the time, (overseas holiday, new car) but that will take a little more planning and maybe more funds too. When you understand the power of carrots and allow them to be a constant part of your life (without guilt), you will find that they are very effective for fetching your great future.
Find out more at www.fetchmyfuture.com
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